But the way I have always seen it is if I buy a thing from you, and I pay for shipping and insurance, what I am actually doing is reimbursing you for your costs of shipping and insurance. I am not arranging the shipping and insurance - the seller is. So if something goes wrong and I don't get what I bought, in my mind the onus is on the seller - the guy who arranged the shipping and insurance - to take care of making good on his deal and either refunding my money or sending me a replacement product.
Yup!
So you see,
@SOLANCO 's original posted query is really about his experience with commercial shipping and the proper legal format as they may apply to private sales.
When items are traded between private parties within the realm of membership forums such as we have here,. other rules and laws come to play.
FOB guidelines don't fit well, as it's an agreement between individuals.
There are items I've bought here, where I offered the seller extra cash above cost,,to insure the item shipped USPS for over $500 (it's about $10 extra),, doing so makes USPS handle the item differently, It's in locked storage between trucks and has to be signed for at delivery.
So, for $10 extra, I get that box with the $250 pistol placed in my hand at signature,, not just dropped on my front stoop 10 minutes after I leave for a 12hr shift,, if I'm not there,, I get a note to pick it up, it get's locked storage again, and I sign for it when I pick it up..
p.s. There are sellers that can even mess that up too! (been there, done that!)