It makes me sad to see people fractured on supporting shooting sports organizations. I try to support many. I belong to GOA, NRA, N-SSA, and NMLRA. Are these organizations perfect? No. But as Benjamin Franklin said, "We must hang together, or we will surely all hang separately."
I joined NMLRA a few years ago, so I could shoot in a local Territorial Shoot. I've never been to Friendship, and have no burning desire to go. I'm too busy with work and kids and my primary shooting organization, the N-SSA.
The N-SSA sounds a lot like the complaints here about the NMLRA. It focuses primarily on its home range in Winchester, Virginia, and the two National events held there each year, and the local events held there also. This is, naturally, where the bulk of the organization's expenses are. I seldom go to National vents - I go every 3 years to preserve our team's campsite and that is it. It's not that I don't enjoy going, but it's a week of vacation and a lot of money to do exactly what I do at a local skirmish on a weekend.
It does sometimes feel like you are paying your national dues to support a local gun club that you never use. But, you are paying for something special that exists nowhere else in the world. You are helping maintain a tree that you may never enjoy the shade of but others will. I donate money to support Civil War battlefields even though I might never walk on them.
As for local activities, the best way to get them happening is simply to do the work to make them happen.