Systemamfry:
A miss fire or hang fire will be the result of something gone-wrong with cleaning or loading procedures. Your father-in-law's miss fire was not the result of the #11 cap not being hot enough...there was oil or fouling somewhere between the nipple and the main charge, or possibly in the nipple it's self.
Follow the advice of the other posters on nipple and cap selection and you will be fine.
Use real BP, and not any of the substitutes if you want to increase or maximize reliability.
Before loading the rifle for a hunt, spend VERY much time "dry cleaning" the rifle, bore, breech, and flash channels, and the nipple. If you just run "a couple" dry patches down the bore, and then snap a cap or two before loading...YOU, may exeprience a miss fire! That's fine for at the range, but a ML rifle requires a lot of care when being loaded for hunting. When you load the gun for the hunt, don't snap caps...dry those areas out by hand.
Use enough care loading the rifle, and use real BP, and you can expect 100% reliability. This will all pay off far better than going to a musket cap.
Rat