I’ve been lucky in that she never said no to my hobbies and when she asked “how much?” about a gun never googled to verify
. But I also planned ahead. Early in our relationship I did the laundry for her: reds and whites on hot then dry on high for 3 hrs. I had to buy a few replacement garments but never did another load. Loaded the dishwasher without rinsing and no soap. No dishes anymore. I think she’s getting suspicious about my selective stupidity but it’s been 28 years of washed clothes and dishes. Now, on the flip side, I have to live with a lot of thrift store “finds” but every relationship is give and take. My only worry is that when I pass, she sells my guns for what I told her I paid for them.