When I reload my pistol I drop to my knees with the butt end of the gun between my legs and its muzzle up, then I load out of my shooting bag hanging on my right side, seat my ball with my knife handle, cut my patch, then grab it by the forend and barrel, and ram it with my ball starter, and then, with the same grip around forend and barrel, I slide it the rest of the way until my ramrod's loading notch is flush with the muzzle, there is no need for any additional pressure, or resting the gun on a hard surface. If the muzzle meets the loading notch, then the ball is seated. End of story. I prefer to do it with the gun between knees or in my hands. I don't want to put unnecessary scratches or dents on my stock, and I can't see how anyone could ever break or split a stock...that is downright Ab-use.
Maybe some of you prefer to shoot off of the table. Im a hunter. The way I see it, if ever you can find a table to load on between squirrels, its time to get out of the yard... lol. The rare times i do target shoot with my pistol, though, I just load it the same way I do while hunting. I am pretty much a hunting-styled shooter: all the way from form, to loading, to practicing.